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Recently I finished reading a book by Daniel Goleman called "Working With Emotional Intelligence" which caught my eye when I was doing some other reading, it took me two and a half weeks before I could get started but once I got started I couldn't wait to get from one chapter to the next. If you choose to find and read this book, start this book with an open mind and a willingness to unlearn everything about yourself. With total honesty you too can be driven to improve and increase your emotional intelligence.
" While some people seem to be born with natural self-assurance, even those who are shy & timid can become more bold with practice. Practice ! "
In this brief moment of throwing shade (shunning) at all the Mensa kids who I've seen on TV through my years as a child til this point, I have forever not liked the idea of IQ being used to separate them from the rest of us. I remember my grades being compared with others as a kid so I've never liked it being thrown in my face. This book saying that Intellectual Intelligence wasn't everything made me so happy but I soon learned that emotional intelligence has to be combined with intellectual intelligence. You cannot rely on one or the other you must ensure they both meet at a point depending on what kind of work you do, what it requires of you, where you work, the environment you need to contribute to and how you need to be present or contribute to this working environment.
" Change comes when you don't see yourself as the victim or passive pawn in the game of life but, as the master of your fate."
Whether you're the janitor or the PA, the mail-room girl or team manager, the board of executives or the CEO; you have to be accountable and you have to work without a chip on your shoulder. You ain't nobody until you can display that emotional intelligence and work with it everyday not treat it like a 30-day trial then I'm done. You have to grasp what it means to you at your own pace BUT you are not alone if you are willing to hear the truth and be assisted in your journey to emotional intelligence. Remember that once you reach emotional intelligence land, it is not a destination but rather it is a journey in which you continually look for ways to improve and ways to be an example to others who need to take their journeys too.
" The less aware we are of what makes us passionate, the more lost we will be. "
What did this book do for me and what will I do with what I've read?
I have read this book knowing which areas of my attitudes and work ethic need to be updated. I've learned that there are a million and one ways to prevent problems, conflict and mistakes in your work - one thing that gets us there is not arrogance but a laziness of not doing what we know is right before it is even required of us !
" For those who lack self-confidence, every failure confirms a sense of incompetence. "
Every great step is not taken right away. It is first thought of in thoughts of wanting to change but not actually taking steps to do anything proactive about it. I have taken great steps in my life only to receive rejection and in turn I become the person who has a deju-vu moment later about what other's saw in me that made them encourage me to push further than where I was. Sometimes those realizations come late and sometimes they come at the time which is best - the time when you are your most receptive to change.
I want to publish a book, it will be a collective of my work from the start of my journey at 8 years old til Summer 2015. Hold me to it !