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Tuesday, March 21, 2017

Why Every Young Girl Should Read "Eat Pray Love" Even After 10 Years



This quarter's guest blog post comes from ViaLeeny, who speaks on LIFE LESSONS. Through a new read, she breaks down the different things that we can learn from this book and its characters. It is a search for finding how to better oneself after the storm, after mistakes, after having eyes unveiled to see the reality.





 You're a free, curious spirit. Always looking for the next best thing in your life. You have your whole career set in stone, you have a somewhat clear but also somewhat messy vision of what you want for yourself. You have dreams within you and creative energy which are going unfulfilled either because of outside influences you hate to admit exist or because of your own fear of trusting your inner voice. I'm just like you and through out Eat Pray Love you can catch glimpses of how Liz is just like us: wanting to move closer to our truer selves. Maybe it's just a human thing (shrugs) 


1)  It will open up your eyes to generational differences

Liz is little like her mama & she knows it. The empowering realization that you don't have to be frees your soul. Maybe you grew up in a household where "this is the way we do things around here" goes. Or maybe you were left to your own vices to figure it out only through observing the way others do things. In either case you might have felt within your bones something's got to change in your personal life, or else you'll go mad & lose yourself. Within the first few chapters we already get a sense of Liz recreating personal principles and boundaries which weren't had in generations before hers.

2) It will inspire you to take risks without guarantee

When Liz realized she had to do things differently, she took some risky action to create that change. You may have come to realize the character you've been playing in your life might have been assigned to you because of outside influences at home, school, work or social media. But then it hits you - this character isn't who you truly are, nor is it who you want to be. Aren't you glad it's never too late? While it is scary to step into the unknown territory that change always seems to occupy, you might discover some hidden gems within yourself along the way.

 3) You will realize sometimes you don't..





Courtesy of  © 2016 ViaLeeny

Wednesday, March 8, 2017

#DearMe




Happy International Women's Day.

I wanted to take this opportunity to do this tag which went viral a few years ago, I'm not sure if it fits in with the essence and purpose of International Women's Day but here goes.

I'm not old enough to give advice to my younger self, I am however in the position to give advice to my teenage self and these are the things I'd say:

You weren't very confident, you had low self-esteem. People used to intimidate you a lot and it took you a lot to get to where you are now as a young lady; even as you are, there are still a lot of things you are dealing with because you're dealing with the realities of seeing something different than who you are. I want you to know, that in some years from now when you've gotten out of your teen years and you are in your twenties; you will be surprised at how much you would have learned, matured and progressed. 
Things will get better, life will get better, situations will get better. You will still be fighting for your place in this life to show that you're worth the fight, to show your existence is not just another life form breathing in and out but it will be more than you can imagine. It will be more than you can take in, you'll be fine ! Even though you're this loner through high school and you feel so alone - you have days when you're depressed and you come out of it to questions like why am I upset?, why am I down? why do I feel like I'm not worth anything?
You will very soon not only have worth for self but have worth for others. People are going to hurt you, and you're going to say stupid things because you haven't matured yet but you will soon learn how, to not be too big to say sorry & you will also learn to say sorry even when you are not at fault. You will also learn how to accept the challenges of life, understanding that no position in this life is permanent - after the struggle comes elevation. 
You don't think you can make it to college and you have dreams within, you have hope and then you don't, then you have the drive but you're put down, you'll be fine though! I just want you to understand that in some years from now you will be someone that people admire, people will appreciate you even if they don't say it & you'll be one of the coolest people around on this earth. 
You are going to grow as a poet, in ways you don't understand and you're going to have social media - yes, you won't believe it because you weren't up on that MySpace and other things but you're going to share with the world. It will be slow at first, you have to understand that. These teenage years of yours are not wasted some time in the future you'll have to make another young lady or young man understand that "your current situation is where I was years back and I guess I'm happy I went through it because of YOU."  They'll probably look at you like you're crazy, and you will explain; that you had to go through those things so someone like them in 20-30 years from now would have someone to tell them that it's going to be alright. 
They are not going to stay there, they will not constantly be depressed but they are on a journey to their joyful place and that isn't necessarily materially. When you get there don't forget that you were once here. Don't stay where you used to be but appreciate the process that took you through where you used to be and brought you to where you're at. 

I hope you all have a wonderful International Women's Day and for all the guys and kids out there, even as women let us learn to appreciate 
each other. Go out of your way to call your mom, your aunt, your grandmother, your nana - let them know they are appreciated women and 
even though to the world they may not be internationally known. In the little city in the confines of your heart, soul and existence 
they are women worth recognizing.

Much Love & Peace,

Pebble$ x 

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Wednesday, February 22, 2017

I Want Representation.






This post is the result of some inspiration I got in late September 2016 while searching for images relating to a topic. I either didn't use the right search terms or this was one of those times I needed to look through somebody's cellphone (I was going to say Instagram but uhh, we proceed) for creative inquisitiveness' sake. The search term was "black best friends" as I had used an image depicting best friends in my 5 Lives post. I had also been reading a lot to feed my mind at that time so there were some deeper issues that also contributed to this post, I hope you enjoy reading this as much I did writing it!


First we look at I, I is the individual. Finding your individual importance helps to shape what you give out and what you wish to receive. What are you giving out? This should be your security within yourself, your innermost convictions and your identity. These come together as the presence that you represent, and will attract or draw you to those who represent an aspect of the commonalities you like in a friend, a leader, an artist. You find the best of what you need within yourself and from there, you can search for people who take what you have to the next level, this helps in continual improvements of self.

How do you show out for you? Being present, attentive to your current motives, identifying what is a priority in your growth. Being present is living within each moment, when you are invited to an event in your field don't think about shortcomings or where you would rather be. Enjoy that moment, observe the energy around you, learn from the interactions of others (all of this can be used as material, depends on what kind of creative you are though 😁). Continually find ways to feed yourself, your mind, to feed yourself creatively. Check in with yourself, how are you doing? where do you want to be? where are you currently? You ensure to show out for self through caring for self, loving self, growing self & maintaining self-confidence. 

-  Adjust the perspective & not the lens. - 

Once you achieve showing out for self and knowing how to show out for yourself, you can help others. You can represent others, by standing up and spreading that confidence. The best kind of security that you can give to others is the security that you have in yourself. You cannot give what you don't have and you cannot represent a people that you have never seen, by that I mean if you want people to care for your presence you have to care about them. Standing up for others means that you have to realize that your platform, your authority, your presence isn't for you alone. There are people watching, both young and old who need to know if there's somebody who understands them, somebody who can amplify the sound of their realities to those who just don't get it yet. Representing those who can identify something in what you do and in who you are requires a desire to build and not to break down, it is knowing when to use your voice and when to listen. When you are the representation, you may feel the weight of accountability on your shoulders this just reminds you of the position you hold and acts as a point for identifying what you need in order to continue.

Wanting representation is not only an image, a platform, a presence or a person but it is a collective of stories told through the lives of those who show you how to hold on through thick and thin, who shine a different light on life's path and its art. We require that collective to maintain its passion, its drive and not allowing itself to be diluted or fall under the weight of pressures from those who do not understand its importance. The reason why this is so important is, the presence of representation gives you something to continually look to which keeps something alive within your being. SO  the last thing you need is a loss of that representation or its retraction from spaces where it is needed and from communities where it is needed.

Representation is not a lone responsibility, anybody can be used at any time. Anybody can occupy that space which means that the needed voice is not only found through you but others also. Get ready to be brought out of your comfort and to bring others out of their comfort work together and work on each other. As you help others to come out of their comfort and into the reality of what they have stored within; you will learn to speak less and let them have their moment. Since representation is not a lone responsibility there cannot be fights for spaces to occupy and you cannot break others down to become more visible. Representation is standing together, it is collaborating in spaces to speak out and to make unity infectious. Unity is infectious to those you represent when and ONLY  when they can see that each person has their season and gives support to others out of season, when this is understood then those who are represented are given the fuel necessary to care for self and secure their space. 

One of the principles of representation is "constructive criticism" and knowing how to do that is even more valuable. This is very important in spaces of education, legal practice and jobs but let me focus on legal and education. When you are placed in an educational space where those who may look like you or identify with something in you have something that brings you in direct conversation it is important to watch your words - how you say them, what you say and the actions after they are said. Nobody is asking you to feed such individuals sugar-coated lies and not to call them out on their ish but use the security they have in you to bring it down to earth, then work through problem and solution with them. Encouragement and showing them what they can't see for themselves is part of being the representation - you unveil chests in life that people didn't know they could search for or even have access to. 

Legally, stereotypically this one requires rising above and thinking clearly for yourself. In this space you will come across various individuals for various reasons, they all have a story and so do you. You may find those whose story is YOUR story, much like education you must watch your words and be representative in your speech.. talk like somebody who knows those grievances, that loss, those situations. Your work calls for you to reflect the law in whatever capacity that may be but life's journey also requires you to be the collective of stories and experiences which keeps something alive in those who you represent IN & OUT of your career. Whether authority lies in something reputable or less recognized those who you represent require you to know how to deal with people like them in some capacity through communication and presence in a way that doesn't look to breaking a people but building better communities. 

Last but not least how do you encourage someone who may be in hiding ?  Well don't we all have somebody who stands out, who we secretly wish we were as bold as because they just embody a great energy and presence when they are around. Make them aware of what they carry and where opportunities arise push them into those spaces to use their voice, their talent or whatever it may be to help them continually build themselves. Sometimes all that somebody needs is to continually be placed in spaces where what they have to offer cannot be hidden and often needs to be shared. Encouraging someone to come out of hiding requires continual encouragement but not just words, it is necessary to include actions such as signing them up to shows or events and calling on the assistance of those around them to make that person realize that they hold something valuable.

" Representation means that something represents an image different from everything else that we have seen out there. Break the mold, do not fit in !  Look at the environment and see how you can suit it to make the best experience for yourself. Where the experience can't be created by you reach out to others & build it together. Somebody needs you as their representation and essentially somebody needs the chance to be your representation also ! "


(I found this blog post early October 2016 when I was looking through an artist's Instagram page who had drawn Laquann Dawson.)



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Tuesday, February 7, 2017

Isaac Actually Came Before Ishmael







In today's post what I want to actually talk about is a conversation I had the other day with a friend about how we as people have progressed through life and trying to distinguish, those who have been able to discover more about our past and how we have been mistreated through time. In finding that, those who have made the best discoveries and challenged the notion are black muslims, I didn't want to totally agree with that.  I realize that in some cases what has happened is it has been black muslims who believed that if Christianity is what was imposed on them by the slave masters then that means that it was a "religion" to suppress them and make them feel subject to some kind of treatment different from the way that the slave masters would have practiced Christianity and therefore some converted to islam. We can now establish that the slave masters most likely did not practice Christianity properly, but used it to twist scriptures to favor their wrongdoing and to somehow justify slavery in a man-made light. 

Then we proceed in conversation, if Ishmael had not been born of Abraham there is a possibility that the tribe or the group of people who had been birthed from his lineage would probably not have much authority in today's society but because they had been born of a great man, Abraham. Whether deserving or undeserving Ishmael took part of that blessing and therefore we now have the Arabs and Middle Eastern who are excelling in their business, are successful in life and are prospering. While we also as Christians benefit because we are Isaac, what must be understood - the way that I see it and what it means for me. As the Isaac of my father, us as the Isaacs of our Father are trying to take back and reiterate that we are the rightful children of purpose, that if Abraham had been patient enough he would have and He still did receive us, his child of promise. 

We are the rightful children of the house, we are official - we are birthed of the mother of the house whilst the Ishmaels are birthed of the woman that was given in desperation and in a way a disobedience. It is our position not to make anybody seem like they are of less worth than others but rather state, there is a rightful position in order to gain the inheritance that is rightfully meant for you. In order to gain this you must first understand your history. If it so claimed that those who follow islam, your faith follows that of your father and is not determined by your mother.. then really it is the God of Abraham that should be followed and not the possible gods or idols of Hagar that Ishmael followed by. I'm not a deep person of theology but I am learning more with my journey in life and getting to know God on my own level and in my own journey and understanding His worth in my life.

The title was "Isaac Actually Came Before Ishmael" and what that explores is that although Ishmael may have been physically conceived first, Isaac was conceived in the mind of God and therefore conceived in the mind of Abraham and Sarah first before Ishmael was birthed. I say that to say this, sometimes we as people have first of all seen the coming and the birth of our visions and our dreams before they manifest. It may takes years before they manifest BUT we must also understand that, just because somebody might have taken a fast lane or been able to get to that finish line before us that does not nullify the manifestation and completion of our blessings, our dreams and visions coming to pass. It may be seen that, that person is celebrated before you and even more than you but that shouldn't rule the way in which you live your life and alter your attitude which can affect your level of gratitude which can hinder you from receiving your reward. 

So you may feel like the Ishmael's of life are getting to the finish line before you, being birthed and being recognized before you. You must also remember as Isaac you are a person of promise, your visions are seeds of promise as long as you have the faith enough to be patient that one day nope let me correct that, TODAY. Today you will get to the finish line too ! 

The today in your future, which is the today in that moment which you raise your hands and give glory to testify that, that seed has been birthed is your Isaac moment. That is the moment you say, "I was promised this, I saw this in my mind so I could have it" and as long as you can perceive that you are a person of promise, a person of destiny with a purpose. It doesn't matter how many times people propose that they can try and do things for you, you keep on being filled with purpose because every step that you take in growing despite how painful it is, is on purpose. It is on purpose so you stay on purpose to see the finish line of your purpose. So in fact you are the Isaac that was birthed out of promise and promises are not made to be broken therefore you were birthed before the Ishmael's of life so don't let that get you down at all !



Pebble$ could you answer one question for me, why did you have to start off with black muslims, and religion and slave masters and the story of Abraham?

- If I get started on breaking down the deeper meanings of this post which show various displacements it will only get longer so connect with me on Twitter // Facebook & I will try to make the conversation more fruitful.



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Tuesday, January 24, 2017

Dear Pebble$ : 002





January 24, 2017 


Dear Pebble$,

Going forward into 2017 there are some things I would like you to consider and improve on. There is a greatness in you that may be concealed rather than shared with some and I know that there are some mistakes that you have been able to highlight. If they were bold enough to be noticed by a highlighter then girl you need to change it or improve it.


  • Learning to listen carefully.
  • Speak louder.
  • Read questions properly, because you have too much intellect to miss out on what you want to say
  • Stop holding back and doubting before it even happens.
  • Get out of your comfort zone; reason why I say this is because, many times I have got out of it and then sometimes I just revert back to my old homebody ways. Not so much, not doing the unexpected but going back into my comfort. I go out and come back into it, I'm on this train of I guess what you can use to define many of us in life - extroverted introverts. You have that extroverted energy in you but sometimes you got to be introverted or some situations cause you to seem introverted or awaken the introvert in you.
  • Remember to PUSH as you grow closer to God
  • Stop saying you'll do things. keep silent and just do it but do inform where necessary e.g. in matters relating your book. 
  • There's an eagle hiding inside of you, she doesn't fly.. she soars, she doesn't do the ordinary.. her steps are ordered.
  • Relearn how to speak to people, you're going to meet new people this year and connect with people you've known on a different level so activate the intellectual artist with a hilarious personality. 
  • Make space for growth. Growth, Growth, Growth in everything.
  • All your needs are met, your drive is set so don't let finances hinder anything. Be smart though 😁 😁 
  • Be at peace. How many times have you been witness to calm when you should have felt the storm.. too many times to count !
  • Preparation shows that something is in the oven, hopefully you will not forget that. 
  • Don't dwell on the 'Before' photos of life, perceive the 'After' photos of achievements.
  • Doubt and fear are two besties that you do not want to entertain, remember that UPS package you sent to 2016 at 23:59 on Dec 31, 2016. They were in that box let them stay there !



These are the thoughts that I will keep in mind and all of my changes for the new year. I hope you have been welcomed into 2017 nicely, I challenge you to pick on things you need to improve and let's achieve greater things together. 


Much Love, 

The Chica You Best Believe That!

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Tuesday, January 10, 2017

God Ain't Playin Wit Chu






Happy New Year as I welcome you into a new kind of year, with a new attitude and new start. Hellur Week #2 of 2017 I made it, we made it ! Yes I did almost crack with a foot on Doubting Thomas Ave. for a second but I called that foot back and remembered this post. I am so very sure that you are wondering what this title is about, we shall proceed on that very subject but is you ready? 


"This is about to gas your tank all the way up for the ride of your life through 2017 and life will never be the same again." 


I already started giving fuel to my Instagram friends by letting them know that 2017 is the year to be unapologetically YOU. Stand in what you believe in and what you believe in will never cease to give you the energy and strength to keep on going. This is the year to place your trust in God both in the times when you know what to expect and the times when you have to take a seat and allow results that are greater than you can imagine, happen. Trusting in God will mean that you have to be fully persuaded in the scope of His ability, of His capabilities; this includes the knowledge and continual grasping that you indeed have a purpose to life, a purpose to achieve and a reason to every season that you go through. If you haven't searched for your purpose, run wild through the fields of life in search for it and let nobody hinder you. Grow closer to your creator and allow him to guide your steps, do not be afraid to ask questions or make the wrong turns on your journey. When you leave something in his hands to take care of, do not sweat it, do not doubt if factors like time bring your faith into question but rather remember who is in control of your situation for He never fails.


You must be fully persuaded that whatever you want to achieve this year is possible and will happen. You cannot allow time or finances to work against you, you can't allow those things to limit you. Whatever needs to happen will happen and it will happen right on time just keep doing what you have to do. Put in the work, give it time, be committed, be committed to seeing it happen and not letting go of your dream(s) or your vision(s) until you see the reality of it. Keep on keepin on in your confessions, in your prayer, in your drive, in your faith, in your walk, put a little bounce and attitude in your step and keep you head held up high. If the enemy is going to come at you let him know that as long as your faith and belief in God is concerned he'll have to go through God first. When you get to this level and you keep pressing on in believing that something has got to happen, something needs to shift to make way for the reality of your dreams it will take a whole lot for anything to make you turn back and forget all that your determination has been building. 


Get to know your creator, spend mornings with Him in meditation, in conversation and even in silence because that will create an opportunity for him to renew all your vitals - physically, emotionally & mentally. All of you has to be ready to be unapologetically you, to be confident in your stride, in your decisions and through the mental communicating to your emotional to re-energize your physical.. to keep you going ! You are fighting to make yours happen, you cannot let somebody else take your spot because you doubted at the last minute or forgot the persuasion needed for others to believe in you too.  


As many like to refer to him as the Universe let's make this a little more relatable. If you believe that the Universe has those thing in the works for you, then it's yours. You can't receive all of that support and reassurance then continue seeing a defeated image, it just can't happen. Let the reassurance that the Universe has your back be your reason to keep your eyes on your goals so much that you see beyond the obstacles that you encounter, so much that you never see any challenge as being bigger than the Universe in all its entirety.   


Taking you through all of that, is also a personal message for me too. I have feared for so long that all it brought me was nothing, all it did was make me uncomfortable and limited. In 2017, being unapologetically me means to believe that whatever I want in life is mine for the taking and anything that I set my mind to do must be achieved.. no turning back ! It means learning a process of appreciating what I have understanding that I can work with it and achieve those goals, understanding that my every need is met. Not allowing what is not available to me, to stop me from seeing beyond the circumstance. For me if I doubt for a second it could cost me bigger opportunities and the chance to fight bigger battles. 


Doubt and fear are Besties who are ready to steal your every opportunity. They will do that in 2017 by making you look back and base your progression on your before and not the possibility of your after. Ain't no time or room for that, so instead you should keep it moving and reflect on whatever lessons you have learnt through life and manifest them NOW, in your present. Start using those lessons to practice the reality of the man you want to become, to practice the greatness of the woman that has been placed within for you to flourish into. 


With all of that said, you can't afford to question whether God is ready to bless you or not, the blessing is already yours what you talking about. Ch'mon ! Just as He takes your faith in Him seriously, just as he sees the passion burning inside of you and hope being your constant drive, you should also take yourself and your goals seriously. Take your walk with Him seriously because a destiny and purpose are not things to joke with, they are not mere matters to be weighed in contemplation but to desire in completion of a journey. The resources to make things happen are attached to those goals, make sure to run with the full belief that yours will be discovered as you keep on keepin on. Do not waste your resources by doubting, do not lose them through fear, do not run from them because you can't believe that the reality is yours but run with them and utilize them.


When you focus on what's behind you, you forget the wider, clearer and more serene view in front of you. There's a reason why the field of view in front of you is wider than that which is behind. If you focus on the rear view you are NOT ready to move forward and you will surely be left behind while others overtake you in the fast lane of life. The overtakers are those 

who want to pick up some speed and run further with their dreams and visions in life. Which one are you?



If you've been looking to start a relationship with him and you don't know how, this is the time to ask. As the saying goes ASK for him - A-sk and you shall be answered, S-eek and you will find Him & K-nock and the door shall be opened. You start a journey with him by wanting those three things, 1. to be answered 2. to find Him & 3. to have the door of your heart opened for Him to reveal Himself to you.



-  God Ain't Playin Wit Chu In 2017, 
He Ain't Down For You Settling For Less Than Your Worth !  - 


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Tuesday, December 27, 2016

2016 Reads : Pebble$





Books That I Read

1. The Empress : Paul-Loup Sultizer

2. Working With Emotional Intelligence : Daniel Goleman

3. A Bad Case of Stripes : David Shannon

4. God's Generals: The Roaring Reformers : Roberts Liardon




The Empress 
Hannah Newman is 'The Empress' she is a wealthy woman, she has fought for all she has despite people thinking the contrary because she is attractive. She is head-strong in her decisions and how she manages her life, business and personal matters. She is empowering but at some intervals she made me feel like I shouldn't be reading this book, it was a little too intimate but I learnt some things in light of holding your own and not making her mistakes in my life. 



Working With Emotional Intelligence
Whether you are the janitor or the PA, the mail-room girl or team manager, the board of executives or the CEO; you have to be accountable and you have to work without a chip on your shoulder. I also wrote two blog posts about this book, click the links below:
Emotionally Intelligent? Pt.1
Emotionally Intelligent? Pt.2



A Bad Case Of Stripes
This was one of my very first reads of 2016 and I even wrote a blog post about it. Each of us are Camilla Cream, no matter what we feel that we do or do not struggle to face in life. My favorite part in this book is being able to recognize that most times the solution to the chaos we face in our lives can be found within ourselves we just need to stand back and take the time to search for those answers and quiet places within. You can read that post by clicking on the link below:
Chew On A Lima Bean Some Time ?!



God's Generals: The Roaring Reformers
This book was given to me a few years ago, due to its thickness I kept placing it closer to the bottom of my To-Reads pile of books until earlier this summer I really wanted to read it to challenge myself. Little did I know that this book would really challenge my faith and educate me on how far man's relationship with God has been tested, questioned, mocked, twisted, silenced, killed and in some instances caused him to be rejected by the whole of society including those who should have been on their team. If you want to understand how privileged you are as a child of God to be able to exercise your right to worship and gather in His name you need to read this book. This book is the best history lesson you can get as a child of God, a book to kick you in your butt! If this does not challenge and comfort you to be uncompromising in your walk with God in these last days of 2016 and beyond then I don't know what will. You will be persecuted child, oh you sure will be persecuted BUT God has your back in all ways.. Always!




2016 has been amazing year, I'm sure you can tell how much I enjoyed it in my "Dear Pebble$ : 001" letter. I have enjoyed this journey so far 2016 was supposed to be filled with bountiful blessings and opportunities to take as my own and that is exactly what manifested. I Carpe Diem-ed all over this year despite little personal improvements I had to make it all worked out. This is my last blog post of 2016, oh my my my. I look forward to engaging with you all in conversation in 2017, remain blessed and make sure you squeeze every last drop of goodness out of 2016. 


I also want to take this opportunity to thank all of my readers over these past four years, it has been a pleasure to have your time and to write these posts. What have you enjoyed the most about my blog, what do you look forward to & include any improvements? 



Stay Blessed Everybody !
Pebble$ x 



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