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Tuesday, December 12, 2017

Do You Need A Mentor, Therapist Or A Coach ?




This quarter's guest blog post comes from The Freda Lee, who speaks on  LIFE MATTERS & PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT. Since we've hit the last quarter of 2017. First of all well done on all hurdles overcome by you, in order to get to this point. As we look to the end of one year and the expectation of a greater year ahead - watch out for the people, resources, wells of expertise that you can add to your life. With this post I hope that you get one step closer to identifying who you need to seek out in 2018 so you can get to your next level.





Getting your shit together is totally IN these days.

But where do you start when you're trying to 'develop' and 'better' yourself? Self-help books are an excellent way to get 
started but it's best to have a sounding board when you're working on yourself.

So this brings me to, who's your best bet for your personal growth?  A mentor, therapist or a life coach? 

Deciding who you need 

A Mentor
Having a mentor can have a good lasting impact on your career, and also be life-changing. 

Mentoring is a long-term relationship, where the mentor focuses on supporting their mentee with growth and 
development. Whilst the mentor is a source of wisdom, they are not there to instruct, or tell you how to do things.

A mentor is basically your personal cheerleader.

Mentors are beneficial because they challenge you to think differently and open your eyes to see different perspectives. 
You should consider finding a mentor if things are feeling "off" at work, as they can help you to realise your full potential.


So how do you go about finding a mentor ?
Finding a mentor isn't so clear-cut, compared to...








Courtesy of Ⓒ 2017 THE FREDA LEE

Wednesday, November 29, 2017

Love Letter To Self : Pebble$







Dear P. ,

I love you girl. The highs and lows of your mood, the inconsistencies in posting, the moments taken to reflect and let moments live. You are the reflection of everything I've wanted in this moment, the ability to appreciate but never get comfortable. The grounded state of not knowing and the leaps of trying something new. 

I hope that you can find it in your schedule for us to meet some time soon, I miss the youth in your smile, the strokes of your pen, the talking out loud to achieve tones, the shaking of a poet's anatomy before getting on stage. Standing on stages like nothing happened prior to that moment. I hope you find it in your schedule for us to reflect, to watch others and awaken the performance, the gift, the boldness to remember what those moments should mean. 

The moments taken to reflect on the meaning in between, stay up at night as you like I know that you come most alive in these moments. Remember to get your beauty sleep too, you need to keep yourself in sync with everything required of your journey. Travel easy, laugh light, feed heavy. Confuse every attendant with your very being. Being how you are, without a doubt as goofy as you like. 

You are a movement within yourself, the willingness of sisters coming together to create greater impact and care for the baby. When the world pushed normal you claimed 'We're in the weird business, we've never known usual.' Guard your thoughts, your faith, your passion, your kindness, everything that will be out of their season but not yours.

One more thing. Step outside that front door and claim the world as your own, you can flip the script as you please. You are a scented and essential flavor that brings color to life's gray scales, the very reconnecting of nerve cells almost dying, the innervation of cardiac muscles excited by the presence of words. You are my poet, my friend, your words are my first love, your notebook has saved me many times, I am a collapsed pile of sheets melting in the smooth of your voice, I am closed eyes wanting to catch everything you have to say.

My last line much like the first, I love you girl.





Much Love, 

Pebble$ on the other side of the computer screen.



  Copyright © 2017 PebblesWroteIt

Tuesday, October 17, 2017

Should I ?


Do you ever get tired of those moments, when you have experienced so many petty Bettys that you can't even be mad anymore. Well, in those moments I end up laughing in my head or smiling so wide you just have to ask me what's up.

Note: Girlfriend I am here for you, cheering from the sidelines. If I ever get on court and make him laugh, just chill.. 
my presence on the court stops at that.




Ok it happened again
I never bought a ticket to the show they thought I was watching 
Now you got my eye for a split second
Switched my stank face on 
My lines aren't meeting haiku rule at this point
So I decide to continue
Your point is a missed syllable 
So please, stop the beating of self hoping for a pattern 
The enforcement of lips 
Sorry, the lip smacking is a pathetic sound 
Setting me up for laughter and smiles 
As I observe the ridiculous
But how you been older your whole life 
And stay needing to place your stamp on it
No seal of approval necessary
Stop running storylines 
When I am the author not a competitor
Leave the ink and paint your claws



 I have decided to put a hold on the publishing of my book. I want to save it for a time when I feel it is better to release, please bear with me. I will be sure to update you so follow me herehere & here.


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Tuesday, September 19, 2017

Heart Of The Matter





When it concerns matters of the heart it is serious business. Things may get at you psychologically, but that is only one dimension of yourself. When we get started on chemicals at work within you, worries on your mind, thinking about issues, feeling helpless because the people they target, the people they want to rid of look just like you - these all come into the dimension of our physical selves. 

Life is in the blood, and blood is pumped by the heart so everything the blood is exposed to, all the molecules and chemicals, changes in your internal environment are all fed back through that blood into our hearts. Those hearts are connected to the body through the blood which is a transit system of its own, so know where I'm going with this.

Take the time to nurture yourself, ensure that no matter what you are going you do NOT allow it to reach your heart, as that is where the problems begin. 

Handle the stresses and leave the rest out, the extra weight is not your package, it wasn't addressed to you or recorded as a delivery for your residence so leave it. Be upset when you want to be upset, walk away when you need to, change your environment if it keeps you at peace BUT do not sacrifice your health to satisfy somebody else's reaction.



  Copyright © 2017 PebblesWroteIt

Tuesday, September 5, 2017

When Passion Meets Purpose






This quarter's guest blog post comes from  ALovePerfect, who speaks on ACCOMPLISHMENTS & DREAMS. This is what it looks like when you decide to start no matter how little your steps, the weight of your struggles, the pains that resurface, the doubts or fears. Remember in the midst of all you are going through you always have something to offer, solutions are stored inside you.




So let's have an honesty hour...

With the growth of the project I started at the top of this year in January, The Prayer Project, my mind has been filled with new ideas to get it to grow, expand and flourish. I recently have been overwhelmed with my many ideas of turning this project into a business. Although having these thoughts are perfectly normal and fine, I really have to take a step back and remember why I started this project in the first place. So I'm taking a moment to check my heart and correct any selfish motives behind its growth.

I didn't start The Prayer Project for the purpose of turning it into a business. Not at all. Money was the furthest thing in my mind. I began this movement because I saw a need. I saw a heartbreaking need that I knew I wanted to help with. God opened my eyes and put a burning fire in my heart filled with intense compassion and desire to contribute to a change. I knew then that I couldn't be afraid anymore. I had to do it. I had to listen to and answer the quiet voice of the Holy Spirit impressing on my heart how He's prepared me for this.


When I think of why I started The Prayer Project, I'm reminded how sad I felt for those with broken hearts that had grown cold; for those who had never experienced the warmth of God's love through the people surrounding them. I remember believing that I had something worth sharing that could help. I remember feeling overcome with excitement that God had given me something...





Courtesy of  © 2017 ALovePerfect

Wednesday, August 23, 2017

Calendar: TAP #3

IWG 2017: Running To The Cross



Those tickets are selling fast. If you want to catch Pebble$ for her second official performance of 2017. 




JEFMI PRESENTS: IWG 2017 - 'Running to the Cross'

Hosted by JEFMI 

September 9, 2017 

4 PM - 8:30 PM


Elim Pentecostal Church. 78 Foxberry Road, London, SE4 2SH


Ministering: CALLEDOUTMUSIC, SHIV, RAE, DEBORAH-DARLING, SHAKI and Many More.

- Ticket Info Available Here -

Tickets are sold on a first come, first serve basis.

Tickets sold on the day will cost more!


For more information please visit website: jefmintl.org or email: jefmi@outlook.com




I look forward to another opportunity this year as I allow my voice move from my pen to the stage, I am still suprised by this sudden adjustment. I didn't plan on performing this year but there's always someone watching out for a sista, the friend who sticks closer than a brother. I just hope to be a blessing to all who are attending this concert and also to be blessed by the other guests. If you will be free that Saturday.. buy a ticket & come through !  
 - Pebble$  😁 ❤️



Copyright © 2017 PebblesWroteIt

Tuesday, July 11, 2017

My 10 Mid-2017 Blog Picks





These have been my favorite blog posts and blogs to read in the first half of 2017, I hope you find something new, someone different to follow or a new blog you can read too!



1|  Via Leeny
Favorite Post/s
- Being Early To Work Has Made Me More Spiritual
- Why Your Twenties is the Defining Decade of Your Life

2|  Tall N Curly
Favorite Post/s
- Beautiful Health
- Happy Father's Day
- Tall People, Curly Hair: If We Could Speak Our Mind
- A Tall Girl's Life: Short BFF's Advice
- A Tall Girl's Life: Tall N Curly's First Feature Film

3|  Ramblings of A Fancy Hot Mess
Favorite Post/s
- Why We Compete
Little She. Big Me
- It's Just Hair, Right?
- You Are Enough
- I'm A Loner, I'm A Loner, I'm A Loner


4|  Miss Andrea Lewis
Favorite Post/s
- 7 Step Prescription To Self Love #selflovesaturday
- Surround Yourself With The Perfect Team - Goal #24
- 10 High Performance Habits That Lead To Success
- "Be Creative" - Weekly Memo
- I Am Inspired By @ClaudiaIris_21, Cancer Survivor
- Don't Forget To Practice #WeeklyMemo

5|  LifeWithJRDN
Favorite Post/s
- Personal Peace: Learning To Let It Go... Again
- I'm On A Mission To Get My Inspiration Back

6|  Hey Fran Hey
Favorite Post/s
- Awaken With Mindfulness
- How Successful People Think (Hint: It's Not All About Being Positive)
- Depression + The Art To Stopping My Downward Spiral
- What Successful People (Who Are Actually Happy) Do Differently


7|  devri velazquez
Favorite Post/s
- 7 Quick Steps To Reclaiming Happiness
- Let Your Creativity Drive Your Success
- Learn To Be Physically Present, Emotionally Absent
- Sometimes... #spooniethoughts
- Your Vision Is A Soul Enhancer.


8|  bdiff
Favorite Post/s
- Free To Roam
- When The Pumpkin Spice Latte Distracts You From Purpose
- When You're "Unable To Can" With God's Way
- Be The One That Got Away
- A Verbal Cookie: Your Desire Is NOT A Weakness

9|  A Love Perfect
Favorite Post/s
- Journey Humbly
- One-Line Prayer Challenge
- (Im) Perfectly Perfect
- To Whom It May Concern...


10|  The Life Of Amy
Favorite Post/s
- Milan, Italy
- University Life





  I have decided to put a hold on the publishing of my book. I want to save it for a time when I feel it is better to release, please bear with me. I will be sure to update you so follow me here, here & here.


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