Tuesday, September 20, 2016

5 Lives

I'm standing here in your presence smiling 
And no, it's not because you are dying 
I'm playing old reels to make them anew 
Renewing your strength while you're still here
Promise me you'll live on like my prayers to keep you

I want to publish a book, it will be a collective  of my work from the start of my journey at 8 years old til Summer 2015. Hold me to it ! 

Copyright © 2016 PebblesWroteIt

Tuesday, September 13, 2016

Emotionally Intelligent? Pt2

I identified many changes that make a great leader which mirrored my thoughts, but you must perceive yourself there first otherwise you will not be there or get there in the reality of your mind. Perception is everything in the way you perceive yourself and others, if you cannot first of all be secure in yourself - you will use others to build and shield your insecurities. Whether that's insecurities in your abilities or in the ways you deal with matters that are not within your capacity, it could be matters that you are faced with or shortcomings. 

* I will be using business and company interchangeably within this post so please do not be confused that I may be talking on separate matters.

" These are the four stages of creative solution note it and thank Poincaré later - preparation, incubation, illumination and execution. "

Following on from this, is the progression that comes with a career, promotions in a job role or new height in your business. Each step up requires a step up in your willingness to learn more and implement changes in attitudes, work ethic, uphold values, maintain and increase motivation also keeping track of the values and principles which served as the foundation for that business/organization. This shines a light in educating me rather than correcting me, I guess as Pebble$ I may be considered as a business/brand which becomes recognized with each new reader, connection and conversation; but I haven't reached the stage or touched the turf of owning a business yet. When I do decide to grace that turf however, there are several lessons I have learnt and will hope to apply.

1. Maintaining my stand at all times, this is holding value that others won't need to question. 
2. My role as CEO is not solely contracting the work, but being involved in the work and company; know the people 
 you work with, know the companies you work with, where is your money going, where is energy being exerted, what 
 are people's motivations and who runs with your vision. 
3. Be AWARE, you don't set it and forget it. Have you set up an environment that shows you care about the business, 
 the people involved and the running of your company. Is the company valued, are employees valued as well? 
4. Understand your business' value from the perspective of those who work with you, who does your business serve and 
 what does it need to maintain to continually serve those who value it. 
5. Build valuable working relationships & contacts. 
6. Work with emotional smarts alongside brain smarts. 
7. If I work with my emotion smarts present, it is easier to drive others to build & work with theirs. 
8. Look beyond your vision and take the risk of doing something that wasn't in the plan this can bring longevity and 
  added value to your business rather than sinking its existence. 
9. Teach the next generation, raise them to value, develop and maintain emotional intelligence as much as they do 
  intellectual intelligence. 
10. If something happens to you tomorrow who did you teach, who did you share your expertise with to make sure that 
  the vision stays alive. 
11. Do not do business as usual, using old tools to fix new bolts. Keep up to date with the market, trends and 
 developments in your lane of business. 
12. Yes technology is constantly progressing and producing new tools which can aid, even enhance aspects of your 
 business but remember to recognize that some skills cannot be replaced by tech rather it should be used alongside 
 those skills. 
13. Be a catalyst for change, do not hinder it because of playing it safe. Adapt to the changes, the world is constantly 
 witnessing developments. Teach this to your kids. 
14. The world isn't waiting on you. Get in where you fit and if there isn't one, make a fit for yourself in the market, in 
 the world of business.
15. Know your limits, where you come to a limit in your knowledge on certain things employ somebody's expertise or
 advice to gain what YOU need to KNOW. 
16. Why is one man doing every man's job, identify the essence of team work and the need for a team. Equip your team 
  so they can equip you. 

" To communicate is not just a matter of pushing information at another person. It's creating an experience, to engage their gut. " - John Seely Brown  

Be aware, be awake. Awareness is key in all aspects of life, work, education, career and business. Being aware of limits in an individual's ability and being aware of the state of their sense of self are two very different things. The first is a need to relate on an individual's level and raising them from there so any gaps in ability or knowledge can be resolved. There is also a need in that instance to aid the development of a person and continually review their progress and needs. The second instance deals with an individual whose self-confidence has not yet been developed and requires help in building it; this individual requires someone who will help them to identify what they wish to achieve and how to get to that place. For a person in this position it is best to remind them that they should not compare themselves with others but rather, find their own space and conquer that first. Finding your space and lane in life is one of the best moves that you can pull against uncertainty. This right here highlights the importance of a mentor and mentorship as well as the importance of communicating with your colleagues. 

Another kind of awareness is that of change, if you cannot identify any problems you will not see the need for a solution. Right?! When an individual is able to identify changes in behavior and motivation then they can move from "problem identified" to "who and what does this problem affect". At this point you are open to finding the answers to identifying the consequences if changes are not made but you require others to have input where it may be of help. "Who and what does this problem affect" becomes "what chu gon do NOW?"; this person can now see the problem, what the problem affects and seek the necessary steps to solve that problem. A plan comes into form, of actions to be taken and personal shifts to make are written, made plain so cannot be taken back and negotiated.

" The real genius of organization is the informal, impromptu, often inspired ways that real people solve real problems in ways that formal processes cam't anticipate. " 

When "what chu gon do NOW?" progresses to "make that 20/20 vision I see you" the changes translate from the mental and written to physically evident. Emotion smarts take their baby steps and one point at a time the plan is put into practice. Actions are taken, to a newer self who is emotionally aware, this is the start of a journey which requires continual development, consistency and commitment. 

There is so much more that I could explore from this book and put into my own perspective for you all but I'll have to end it here. I could however come back in a few months and add more to this series of blog posts.. haha. 

Find a way to get yourself a copy of this book!! The translation of its contents is different to each individual so what you waiting for (you might be able to find it in Google books for free).

I want to publish a book, it will be a collective  of my work from the start of my journey at 8 years old til Summer 2015. Hold me to it ! 

                                                                        Copyright © 2016 PebblesWroteIt

Tuesday, August 23, 2016

Spoken Word, The Pebble$ Per$ona, Series & Collabs

The title of this post says it all, to name just a few things which are not necessarily changes but additions to content that I wish to bring to my channel as this journey progresses. With no exaggeration I made 5 attempts to make this upload happen, for it to go live so the worldwide web could see it and see my homebody self on their screens once again. 

So I made this video a few months back and uploaded it to my YouTube Channel. The whole point was to take this opportunity to bring you more of me.. there isn't really an old Pebble$ for me to be bringing a new one. I don't feel that is my aim but rather for me to constantly achieve more and more with the opportunity to share that with you through my content, through my blog, through my Instagram and my Twitter. I do believe that each of my platforms offer something different to each of my readers so pick your literal liquor out of all of them, and I hope that you will enjoy where this is going. There are still a lot of things to learn about me which I know that I want to achieve but you don't know are within me, so I hope that you stay for the journey and connect with me. I look forward to us starting a conversation on whatever I post from now on. 

I thank you for your support, because even when I don't see your comments and I don't see your views I still hold onto the belief that somehow somewhere in some way you are having access to my content and you're able to read it. Maybe you all are having reading parties saying "Let's read Pebble$ New-In together!" maybe it's one view but technically it could be 20 or 30 who knows. I'm here to give the world a little bit of that histological flavor with physio and a little anatomy. You can look forward to that! With this upload I talked about new ways to bring you Spoken Word and how I could put together some audiovisuals. I also talked about bringing The Pebble$ Per$ona back and give her some more episodes. Additional to what I already have on my channel, I have two series coming your way - one is a writing series while the second one is a faith series. The writing series I thought would be perfect for this time while I'm writing my book and getting ready to publish it, so I thought about taking you through my writing process. The hashtag to use for asking me any questions for the writing series is #PebblesWritesThis, which you can use everywhere that you are - this lets me know what questions you have and if their directed at me so I can take them into consideration when answering questions in my uploads. 

The faith series is me sharing my faith with you and how it's shaped me as a person, how it's shaped the philosophies I carry in life, the outlook and the views that I have on life and how in despite of the negatives that the world presents me with I'm still able to stay grounded, stay positive and stay hopeful. To keep holding the possibility that no matter how dysfunctional world may be, my kids, grandkids and greatgrankids and so on will be able to live in it and make an impact. 

There are various aspects to me - there's the poet, the writer, the student, the pebble$ per$ona who is an absolute joker 
and so much more. 

Stay Tuned, 


I want to publish a book, it will be a collective  of my work from the start of my journey at 8 years old til Summer 2015. Hold me to it ! 

Copyright © 2016 PebblesWroteIt

Tuesday, August 9, 2016

Emotionally Intelligent? Pt1

Hello World, Pebble$ Here!

Recently I finished reading a book by Daniel Goleman called "Working With Emotional Intelligence" which caught my eye when I was doing some other reading, it took me two and a half weeks before I could get started but once I got started I couldn't wait to get from one chapter to the next. If you choose to find and read this book, start this book with an open mind and a willingness to unlearn everything about yourself. With total honesty you too can be driven to improve and increase your emotional intelligence. 

" While some people seem to be born with natural self-assurance, even those who are shy & timid can become more bold with practice. Practice ! "

In this brief moment of throwing shade (shunning) at all the Mensa kids who I've seen on TV through my years as a child til this point, I have forever not liked the idea of IQ being used to separate them from the rest of us. I remember my grades being compared with others as a kid so I've never liked it being thrown in my face. This book saying that Intellectual Intelligence wasn't everything made me so happy but I soon learned that emotional intelligence has to be combined with intellectual intelligence. You cannot rely on one or the other you must ensure they both meet at a point depending on what kind of work you do, what it requires of you, where you work, the environment you need to contribute to and how you need to be present or contribute to this working environment. 

" Change comes when you don't see yourself as the victim or passive pawn in the game of life but, as the master of your fate."

Whether you're the janitor or the PA, the mail-room girl or team manager, the board of executives or the CEO; you have to be accountable and you have to work without a chip on your shoulder. You ain't nobody until you can display that emotional intelligence and work with it everyday not treat it like a 30-day trial then I'm done. You have to grasp what it means to you at your own pace BUT you are not alone if you are willing to hear the truth and be assisted in your journey to emotional intelligence. Remember that once you reach emotional intelligence land, it is not a destination but rather it is a journey in which you continually look for ways to improve and ways to be an example to others who need to take their journeys too. 

" The less aware we are of what makes us passionate, the more lost we will be. "

What did this book do for me and what will I do with what I've read?
 I have read this book knowing which areas of my attitudes and work ethic need to be updated. I've learned that there are a million and one ways to prevent problems, conflict and mistakes in your work - one thing that gets us there is not arrogance but a laziness of not doing what we know is right before it is even required of us !

" For those who lack self-confidence, every failure confirms a sense of incompetence. " 

Every great step is not taken right away. It is first thought of in thoughts of wanting to change but not actually taking steps to do anything proactive about it. I have taken great steps in my life only to receive rejection and in turn I become the person who has a deju-vu moment later about what other's saw in me that made them encourage me to push further than where I was. Sometimes those realizations come late and sometimes they come at the time which is best - the time when you are your most receptive to change.

Look Out For Pt. 2 of This Blog We Will Go Deep Into The Intellect Of Your Emotions & Apply It !

I want to publish a book, it will be a collective  of my work from the start of my journey at 8 years old til Summer 2015. Hold me to it ! 

                                                                                       Copyright © 2016 PebblesWroteIt

Thursday, July 28, 2016

Dear Lord...

"Dear World, I open up my Snapchat, my Facebook, my Twitter, my Instagram. I'm only a tweet away, only a gram away, I'm only a snap away. Whether it's written or a little video, feel free to send it my way and I am open to taking your prayer points, taking your concerns and putting it in my prayers to stand with you in my own little way. If I'm honest there is only so much tweets can do, 
Sandra Bland said these cellphones we have in our hands are very powerful, they are indeed because they are educating us in 
ways that we didn't even know before. They are giving us the news just like that so we have no excuse not to be informed. World 
we need to get in formation, we need to get in formation with the information that is being exposed to us. We need to use that knowledge to then inform each other so we can all get in formation in unity, so we can move forward with suggestions."

- Pebble$

I want to publish a book, it will be a collective  of my work from the start of my journey at 8 years old til Summer 2015. Hold me to it ! 

Copyright © 2016 PebblesWroteIt

Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Disposable Fear

This is a collaboration that I did with an amazing photographer on Instagram, the little girl you see in the photo is his daughter. I love working with his photography because it opens your mind to translating what you see and building a perspective & story of your own as an observer.

Start from the inside today. What I mean by that is, we're in a place in time where we are saying that people should pray, some people don't know how to. What should be grasped in these times is, when you are told to, or asked or commissioned or moved to pray and you don't know how to - don't feel helpless. Just start by talking out loud or quietly with hands clasped together, sit still and let your thoughts out. Pour out your heart on how helpless you feel, how much pain such events are causing you or have caused you in the past. Open up on how these events feel like wounds that you only just started healing, that have not only been opened up again but picked at again by vultures who refuse to give you your peace.. Pour Your Heart Out. The same searching should be done so that we can go deeper than ourselves to stand together in U.N.I.T.Y, there is power in unity and sometimes in order for us to move forward with that unity it is best to first of all look into our community to fix and to heal what may be broken.

I've been reading a lot of articles by people who feel they are qualified to break us down as people, when I say that and I state what is being said, you may make it out as me trying to run from the truth but in fact I know the truth within it and I won't try to dismiss it. I don't try to take myself to some kind of fairy cloud and not acknowledge it but rather to say that we understand that and we are starting from the inside. We are ensuring that those within our community that don't understand yet, how important it is a time now to start trying to do right by themselves and not rebel in a way that harms them is a current task that we are helping each other out with. Through informing each other, teaching each other, consoling each other and comforting each other in a way that we can educate each other on what it is we are being faced with right now and what we need to change. Many would say that, "Oh but you as a community you kill each other anyway, you frame each other and oh when you go back to the times of Africa it was the Africans selling their people into slavery." We understand that, we are not living in oblivion trying to dismiss it BUT we are living in the TODAY of the situation and if you don't mind we're actually trying to sort out how we can move each other from that point and mentality to ensure that we don't indirectly keep on selling each other out but rather helping each other. The aim is, that when we are already beat down we are helping each other to stand up and not to knock our brother or our sister down further into the mud, further into the bloody soil that surrounds them, that tries to consume their lives. We are trying to revive our community, we are day by day learning from each other and that is our baby steps and our stands at the same time as, first of all crawling in our helplessness and then using each other to stand up. In standing up we are learning to both take the trauma that the news and reality faces us with AT THE SAME TIME as trying to ensure that our mental states are stable and taken care of. 

I have said this before and I'll say it again, we're not trying to make this a black/brown/yellow/green versus white issue (Willie lynch and them did that already) we are making this what it is - which is a us who are supposed to be protected versus them who are corrupt that are being given the position to protect us and do not have our interest at heart; and when I say "them" I don't mean everybody in the police force but I point out everybody that is wearing that badge and using that badge to authorize and give authority to the insecurities they have. Take for example, I couldn't go into the medical profession in the future knowing fully well that I may have some insecurities about people of certain ethnic groups I shouldn't bother being a doctor ! If I'm only going to make sure to give only the best care to everybody that isn't caucasian or doesn't have skin like mine, that wouldn't be right. 

I started this post inspired by this little girl's face and I tried to interpret what this girl's look means, what it signifies, what it may symbolize and this piece was birthed but now I see the power of a poet and not because it's my work but because I've seen my work and the work of others being set in one point in time and still speaking volumes later. I now realize that our mothers birthed us black/brown/yellow/white and whatever else - our mothers birthed us into this life hoping that is exactly what we would enjoy, Life! Living! Living with a freedom and carefree attitude where we believe we can achieve anything that we want in this life. We are sometimes forced to grow up before our time to deal with adult issues and problems that our young minds shouldn't have to take (e.g. Philando's 4 year old daughter). Our minds should be educated gradually on those things but they shouldn't have to swallow that whole in one go and we've come into this world already with the notion that "Damn this place is big, how am I going to navigate around through all of this before I die?". Then gradually as you open up your heart to know that there are others birthed on the same day as you, days after you, days before you who are there to be your partners - people you see on the journey to know that this path is not walked alone. You start to realize how much smaller the world is, how much more together we can be than we seem to be or we seem not to be, and you know now that the rock that was meant to trip you up in life is being used as the mountain top to show that you have excelled and you have achieved something in life. Where you thought you might fall into a pit of helplessness and non-achievement you realize that the pebble that your enemies have ridiculed you over, was the very one you used to target and SLAY the Goliaths in your life. 

For those who now have the world's issues like this, causing them to really want to take their spirituality seriously or up their game on it. My advice - don't try jumping into everything that is available to you, because if you are not given an understanding to comprehend your reading you will just be reading and interpreting what you want. First search within yourself look at the foundations that you do have like the Gospel, the Word of God. Use what you do know to first of all comfort and feed your soul THEN you have the foundation you need to start using the journeys and knowledge of all of those who are readily available to you in this life through literature, through blogs, through books to strengthen yourselves. Work from the inside out, you can only beat your face for so long before you realize that, that acne, those spots, those zits require you to make some internal changes.

From today find somebody to make you accountable to your emotions and expression, find someone you can talk to, build some foundations to strengthen your inner G. You are never alone in this journey, please realize that people have been placed on this earth to help you out, just talk - talk about your worries, your problems. Unite with one another look to build and not to destroy, encourage yourselves and each other. If supporting the liberation of those you love and care for is being classified as terrorism then let them continue in their ignorance calling good, "evil". You just do you and what you need to do before you leave this earth.

" Don't let the disease become incurable before you decide to take preventative and healing measures." 

Much Love, Peace, Light & Strength, 

Pebble$ .

I want to publish a book, it will be a collective  of my work from the start of my journey at 8 years old til Summer 2015. Hold me to it ! 

Copyright © 2016 PebblesWroteIt

Tuesday, June 28, 2016

Salsa Ain't A Dip

Every time I let loose
I leave you without an imagination
Sat there fringed upon like a tulle
Stakes was low but outcomes was high 
He didn't know how to calculate
So the result wasn't expected when I came late
Pushing further how do you expect us to date

(she coughs)

Excuse me salsa ain't only a dip 
Making memories that wouldn't last long 
He forgot to clarify statement
Cupid turns to Stupid
From acing college classes to graduating kindergarten
Forgot his phonics but 
I'm to blame for recent loss of articulation ?
Look to the news anchor
I won't be your update on new events.

I want to publish a book, it will be a collective  of my work from the start of my journey at 8 years old til Summer 2015. Hold me to it ! 

Copyright © 2016 PebblesWroteIt